I noticed it in third grade when my mom gave me “the talk.” She grabbed a book with detailed images, and explained everything from puberty to sex to how babies were born. As usual you're saying things I don't understand but enjoy reading just the same! Close. I may find myself more sexual once the depression wanes, but given the circumstantial evidence, I really do think I'm asexual. Please know that our entire team here respects and appreciates you as you are. This was the first time I had heard of it, so I turned to the internet. I had a really bad toxic relationship and I have depression. Is there something I can do to reverse it? At times, it hurt so much that I wished terrible things would come about just so I could validate the pain, make some sort of sense of it all. This was really interesting for me to read. Some asexuals have "normal" libidos; they just aren't attracted sexually to other people. I didn’t need to be fixed. I was using the "asexual" tag for a while but then I realized at the end of the day, I don't know if that's what I am… I don't know by this point if i'm asexual and always have been, or if something broke in me years ago now.

You are not defective. This is who you are and who you’ve always been—and here is the language to express it. If the rate of depression among asexual individuals is still higher than the average, you would then have to design an experiment to prove causation. This lead me to think and tbh i've always had sex because i've felt like its whats expected of me and that its what would make her feel good. I love her, but I dont think of her in that way. Nothing seemed to “fix” me. Our goal here is to provide a welcoming home for any and all asexuals to come to, as well as provide a warm atmosphere for anyone to ask questions over asexuality. One of my closest friends drifted from identifying as heterosexual, to bisexual, to choosing celibacy to finally settling on being homosexual. I’m winning. Television told me that sex was an integral part of marriage. I am asexual (and biromantic—but we’ll get into that another time). New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. So what happens when you’re in your late twenties, nine months post an attempted suicide, and suddenly discover who you are?

Whether a serious topic of conversation or a crude joke, I still wasn’t interested. So let me share with you – it’s going to be all right, and there are angels watching over you. Community happens. Here is a way to stand up and fight the lies your depression and anxiety have screamed at you all these years. And healing begins. This year, some of those answers came to light. If you ever need support or someone to listen, you can email us at info@twloha.com. I was so petrified but in time, I found a place that I am comfortable with.With that being said, l don’t know if the meds took the little interest l had in sex away or if I even had my to begin with. r/Asexual is dedicated to bringing asexual awareness to any and all who come here.

Most of us don’t get a reason, it just happens and we are forced to face it, to deal with it. I didn’t choose it. Sorry for the rambling wall of text, I just wanted to talk to someone who might understand. Archived. I thought that perhaps I was still too young—maybe I would get older and something would click.

I felt free. I want to tell her how much i care but most of the time I just feel emotionally numb so it just feels fake. My depression and anxiety got stronger as my voice got weaker. I felt validated. When my middle school classmates started to explore their bodies, cracking jokes in the locker rooms, I felt even more distant. Sex drive (libido) is different. We would be honored to hear more of your story and offer you some encouragement. Press J to jump to the feed. You would also have to control for possible misdiagnoses. We need people in our corner to remind us that we’re OK when we don’t feel it. PrimordialSoup, February 4, 2011 in Questions about Asexuality. How you feel, how you identify is and always will be valid. My depression had reached an all time low; we were disconnected and terrified. For now, I struggle to ignore how empty my life is, because if I were to think about it, I’d realize how alone I am…and a large part of me believes if I were to disappear, it wouldn’t matter. I can't remember how I felt before that relationship, but there has never been a point since when i've felt really aroused. I'm going to try and not worry myself over it too much, but I can't help but question.

If sexuality returns that is fine and if it doesnt that is still fine. I keep waiting either for the whole thing to suddenly turn toxic, or for her to get sick of dealing with me and just leave.

Honestly, one of the worst parts of depression is feeling you will never get better, but even worse is the feeling that you don’t want the help. Thanks for the great sharing… I suffer from anxiety & depression also. Hope happens. We all need allies. But I have never heard of Asexuality before.

I am not depressed.

While I am on this forum that should tell you all you need to know. By Lauren Penna, thanks a lot for the post.Really thank you! I've got erections and I watch porn, but I've never felt anything real in that time. Some people feel sexual orientation is fluid. My friend said you need to go if you are sexually active or not. For the first time in my life, I felt OK. I have got depression going on and abusive relationships in my past. It's so so confusing. It is true many of those with depression and even more so long term serious depression confuse the side effects of depression with being asexual. As if someone had said, “Here. And I love new knowledge about people and their journeys… so I learned something new from you, thanks for that. Sign up for our newsletter to hear updates from our team and how you can help share the message of hope and help.

Your discovering your asexuality doesn’t fix the problem in your marriage does it? Hey, there is nothing wrong with you. Church said it too. Some don't. Every year, around the same time for about five years, my husband and I had the same conversation. Yeah I get you. It definitely does make sense to many of us.