The end result was the same my siblings and I had the worse upbringing. SHE DESERVES A SAYING IN THIS! My ex won't come back to me after I hurt h Ex girlfriend is pregnant with her new boyfriend months after breaking up with me. I'm sorry this is long but I have no one else. I know he can tell I'm not in love with him and I think he thinks he's in love with me ( told me he loved me only after 3 weeks of dating, should've been my first red flag there) anywho we don't really fight a lot and are mostly very friendly around eachother and really do try to make it work but when he gets in his moods I just can't he got drunk one night and almost ran us off the road after telling me he was fine ( he really was acting completely fine) then when I screamed due to being terifed he yelled at me, took away my phone and told me to get out of the house , which I did. To begin, the average cost of vaginal delivery in the US, with health insurance, is $4,300. If you break up right away, she can take the kid and you may miss a lot of the firsts w/them growing up. I must contain all this and somehow manage it thus minimizing any possible damage. I know most of yall are gonna tell me to leave him and I wish it was that easy. Don't feel guilty if you're not in a constant state of love and bliss when you have a new baby. I didn't want to waste one more day of my life feeling empty and with someone I didn't even like. I had been seeing the guy (now DH) exclusively since August of 2011. Second, if she were to make that decision previously to have an abortion for whatever reason you are not someone whose opinion matters since you're on an Internet forum and you don't know the personal lives of anyone on here enough to dictate that they should never have an abortion. With the lowest fertility rate in the . We are trying our best but we don't know how long it will last. So they say don't break up, move, change careers, etc in the first year. I am trying REALLY hard to find some common ground with him, to love him, or even like him but the more time goes on the more miserable I am. Next time, WATCH BEFORE YOU LEAP, U see how some guys end up sleeping with gurls dey do not love?? No one would want their daughter and unborn grandchild in that type of situation. Most were married to . Good luck. Americans love coffee. I know many people that don't feel a connection to their babies for whatever reason until they are born, it happens and it will definitely change once you see his little face. Don't stay just for the kids. I sacraficed my needs for them. I know quite a few mothers who weren't ready (not that anyone ever is) to have a baby when they did and just grew to resent their child. Sometimes their families even paid a dowry to the groom . Some men can be very guarded and closed when it comes to expressing how they feel - it can almost feel like they are pulling away from you and leaves you wondering whether he's actually into you. There are midnight feedings, changing diapers, rocking a screaming infant and little sleep. To cut a long story short I'm in a very My Pregnant Girlfriend is Pushing Me Away. How I wish she can understand and let me leave my life and be free. You could have an easy pregnancy, a quick easy delivery and a healthy happy baby. This difficult parent-child dynamic is most typical of families where one or both parents are narcissistic, but it's not exclusive to narcissists only. seriously.. i find it hard to understand SOME MEN. I'm in love with a married man And his wife is pregnant. If you feel a message or content violates these standards and would like to request its removal please submit the following information and our moderating team will respond shortly. SCENARIO 1: STAY WITH HER BECUASE SHE IS PREGNANT (THIS IS THE FOUNDATION OF THE RELATIONSHIP). BE RESPOSIBLE MAKE SURE TO BE THERE FOR THE CHILD. I would rather someone abort a child they don't want than to have the child and it end up neglected and in the system as it got older. Group Black's collective includes Essence, The Shade Room and Naturally Curly. Congratulations, a new bundle of joy is coming to fill your home with love and bliss. She actually is (5 months now), but I took all the words back (the reasons why I didn't want to be with her). It originally aired on the Fox network in the United States on January 22, 1995. My girlfriend admitted to me that she cheated. what is de main reason why u do not love her?? "And Maggie Makes Three" is the thirteenth episode of the sixth season of the American animated television series The Simpsons. 15) His biological clock is ticking. Opinions please. IS THAT WHAT SHE/HER DESERVES A GARANTEED **** UP ENVRIOMENT? Wasn't looking for a sugar daddy. Satisfaction can be found through bringing up children . If you've only been together 3 mos, where did you live before you met? My boyfriend cheated on me with his baby mama and now she is pregnant but I still love him HELP!! Single. You would [hopefully] love your child, while also realizing that you shouldn't be having sex with anyone that you don't want to have a baby with. I got pregnant with a 34 year old man with another baby and I'm only 19 we've know each other 3 months now but only knew each other a couple weeks when we found out. Accept That You Will Never Be First. In the workplace, women with youthful faces are often more successfuland make solid leaders.On the other hand, though, some baby-faced women get passed overfor challenging tasks and leadership roles. I've made my OWN money since I was 15 years old and before I quit my job to MOVE Paid for all my own stuff and bills WITHOUT his help. Mary Morris Former Bookkeeper Author has 285 answers and 1.6M answer views 2 y THE TRUTH IS THAT NO MATTER LOVE CANNOT BE FORCED. I feel like I'm trapped and no where to go. MzGee Ditches 3Music TV To Take Over Nana Ama McBrowns Show At UTV. But, learning from the past and making it as a lesson is a different story. She is a good person, and a fantastic catch for somebody unfortunately that person is not me. I've been trying to put my pride/ego/whatever aside and be with her, but it really kills me. It wasn't working out before she got pregnant and now it's 100x worse because of her hormones. Steve. Is she shaka Zulu or she is not attracted to u?? Obviously she is going to get custody if we split up. Be true to yourself and you will allow yourself to get things that you deserve. When he acts OK with the idea and his first instinct is to be happy, you can be sure it's one of the big signs a man wants to have a baby with you. Like, we really, seriously, truly love it. To think about the kids. !I've been married for ten long miserable years to a wife I never loved. Sex is the leading cause of babies. I want to leave my 4 months pregnant girlfriend !! Couldn't have said it any better And me too guys. Probably. THEN, MAYBE THEY BREAK UP CUZ THEY CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE. Just here to say I constantly feel guilty for all of the crying I have done this pregnancy. 2Face. No need to waste time your life and time on him. He's not all bad. I am 39 soon to be 40 in 2 months. The way you speak to yourself has a lot to do with the way you view your situation. Being in a lo. Cookie Notice I was literally about to break up with her (we were in the process of breaking up), when she announced she was pregnant. AND NOW EVERY ONE IS UPHAPPY, MISARABLE, INCLUDING THE CHILD. Your post will be hidden and deleted by moderators. I have a good job with good income and will pay half of the costs, I didn't want to lose her but I did. I make significantly more income then her, so I know she will need the child support, which will at least allow me to be in my child's life, but I don't want my child to be exposed to an unhappy marriage. I was in love with someone else. Will you make a better progress by doing so? Group Owners uphold the core values of the brand by reporting content that violates the community guidelines. This relationship is bad for my wife and me. I'm curious to find out how it turned out for you. Spend time with like-minded people who love and respect your choices. Maybe he doesn't like being used. Okay so long story very short my ex gi Long story short, My current girlfriend keeps in contact wit Long story short. Add to Collection. We strive to provide you with a high quality community experience. Same boat. She may have decided against an abortion thinking you will still be with her, but if not, TELL HER it is over and you will not be involved with her anymore (except of course whatever involvement you ahve with the child, support and custody-wise). Nobody really knows what to expect when having a baby, but it does change everything, even if you're determined it won't. Some people may view the prospect of that change as scary and they may doubt their parental skills." Maybe you will need to learn on how to get revenge on a frenemy. useless boy!! as expected the women are been overly sentimental, ganging up on the guy insulting, and throwing reason out the window. I was literally about to break up with her (we were in the process of breaking up), when she announced she was pregnant. I don't get how you came to that conclusion and you are just a bitter girl that Regret will always be there when we made a mistake. we ended u divorcing in 6 years anyway. back out now, "Leaving a pregnant girlfriend with your child, in my view is very selfish and irresponsible. She knows him for 9 MONTHS not years. 1.) Made a mistake without any intention to make it surely will freak someone out. I was supposed to be the one. Yes, her hormones will be out of whack. Good luck to you. Life will not be easier staying with him. His family is great also. Ex My moving on process. Privacy Policy. hmmmm my advise to u is to pray to God n ask for forgiveness, i wonder the big talk u used on this gal b4 u got her on bed and now ur running frm ur responsibility. NOW WHY IS IT THAT SO MANY OF US HAD MESSED UP CHILDHOOD? Also, if it's bad now it will only get worse once the baby is here. I know things would be going so much smoother in my life if I wasn't preggo but there hasn't been a day I questioned my love for this baby. An increasing number of South Korean women are choosing not to marry, not to have children, and not even to have relationships with men. Please, please do not have an abortion like somebody commented. So today at my apt (weekly NST/ ultrasound due to Covid protocol) baby girl measured 8lb 2 ounces and short so they are saying she will be a big baby and have a big headI had my cervix checked and Im not dilated any nor has 35 weeks - desperate to getto finish line ?? I don't need judge mental opinions just ideas and support. I don't know if your feelings of disconnection will pass but I sure hope they do. Are these issues still there? And both of you surely need to stay in touch. Features: Kris Fluffy named herself aptly - "fluffy" because she says she doesn't shave a single hair on her body. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I just put myself on hold. General Baby Shower Wishes And Congratulations. You should do what will make you happy. think twice before sharing personal details, foster a friendly and supportive environment, remove fake accounts, spam and misinformation, delete posts that violate our community guidelines, reviewed by our medical review board and team of experts. Not that it matters - if you have feelings for someone else, you can't be in love with your gf so sounds like leaving is the right decision, as staying together for a child with someone you don't love never works out in the long run. Does the father know? If you don't want to be controlled, don't make yourself 100% dependent on someone. Rightfully so! Think about it if you can't love him ever then end it and learn to co parent. I agree that love is more a choice than a feeling. I'm having a baby with someone I'm not in love with. maybe take a pre-marital class and figure out some common ground to build a relationship on Nine years ago I was mad in love with my first boyfriend. AS to your ex, is she still into you, or is it one-sided? To help you make the fewest blunders possible, let me give you a few tips: 1. THE MOTHER KNOWS THE FATHER DOESNT LOVE HER NOW GUESS WHAT SHE IS ALSO MISARABLE! advice needed h heatha_heatha Posted 2/4/14 My boyfriend and I have only been together since November. The man I am pregnant by has been in my life for years and is a good man but I am not in love with him. My girlfriend and I just broke up and she's 3 months pregnant. ( though I dont see the first one as a mistake because making babies should not be a mistake.it is the natural order of things).you cant force people to do things out of their wishes and desires. Purposely avoiding sex is a great time to have your own awakening Not having sex can be a. you have a baby with a girl you dont love,but you loved her apple enough to eat it without any protection?stupid talk,absolute rubbish. I would say take a step back and analyze why you are not connecting with him and see if things could be different if you two had some changes. Add to Favorites. Im in the exact same boat man. There are reasons on why you should never date a pothead. 1) If you seriously just want the child, but not the mother, you know this can never happen unless you have an agreement with your girlfriend. In fact, before we found out I was pregnant (which was completely unplanned) I was thinking of breaking up with him. I do not know the answer to that. Damaged. Why is she with you? You are in control of your life. I chose to divorce my husband and my boyfriend of 4yrs has now ditched meit's also the consequence for the actions that I chose GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! One slight problem I don't love her! Keep looking down and feeling like you don't deserve something good won't get you anywhere. People don't know he has a daughter, which tells me he's not proud of her, or truly claiming her in any way. Create an account or log in to participate. Know theways to move on after a bad relationship to help you to get better. U r runnin away from marriage cos u didn love her b4 ?? Then suddenly she is all happy, and loved up which I find really hard to believe. Everybody deserves someone who is able to appreciate, respect, and love themselves. I pretended to be. but honestly did society really win? I want to be a father!!! Dont ever sleep with any girl you are not sure abt. MUST READ: Is Christmas Bibilical Or Paganism? This educational content is not medical or diagnostic advice. gals are expect dnt 4get. DO YOU WANT TO CHILD TO HAVE A MESSED UP UPBRINGING LIKE YOU DID? Couples do stay together when they are not in love, just for the sake of stability for the child. 2. I try to act normal as Bella and I sit here talking, even though I'm feeling abnormally attracted to her even . You should have your own baby feelings figured out. most times the child bears all the burnt of this relationship as the child would be looked upon as some sort of curse to both parties life the father will hate the child instead of loving it and the mother will eventual resent her child. They hurt the most. And, the combination of all of these factors can really take a toll on your relationship if you're not careful. He made a baby with you but doesn't seek out or make an effort to spend time with his daughter. But I don't feel the need to hold that up as a shield (though every time I see a movie where the childless woman is the villain I understand why my fellow non-parents doth protest too much . Please whitelist our site to get all the best deals and offers from our partners. My father married my mother when she became pregnant times were different then of course. FATHER IS BLESSED WITH A CHILD BUT MISARABLE. 1997-2023 BabyCenter, LLC, a Ziff Davis company. I don't know how I can be a great weekend father. It would not work out for you or for her. We had two kidsnice little family unit. The episode was written by Jennifer Crittenden and . So remember to try to be the best of you. I do feel sorry for you and the situation you are in. I am wondering if i can and how i can win my ex back. I am a single mom and have been for a few years- however, my first child was planned with my fiance' and we were madly in love and it was the greatest, happiest time of my life. The guy obviously does not love the girl in question yet went ahead and had a baby with her out of wedlock. If you have the "baby blues" you might not notice the sadness or moodiness right away. Back then I loved her and I felt sorry for her because she took the decision of getting marry to me even though she didn't love me. A Group Leader is a What to Expect community member who has been selected by our staff to help maintain a positive, supportive tone within a group. I tried to make myself love him. His baby mama got engaged to some dude while pregnant calls her fiance the kid's 'daddy', despite my friend wanting to be a father to his child. My kids are doing good. And if you guys were just friends with benefits, why continue the pregnancy? Op: I don't understand why you quit your job, but find a new one and go stay with family. I honestly could not ever think of missing out on this child's growing up, especially the early stages. Have you told him you're pregnant yet? Especially in your baby's life! The way you wrote that sounds like you think what a man wants is not as important as what a woman wants. In fact, I was planning on breaking up with him right before I found out I was pregnant. We were fighting like crazy right before we found out she was pregnant. She got pregnant 3 months after meeting him. not the father, mother or child. Sucked it up and did what I had to do for my kids. You're a mom now. Sorry I must've misread. . Learn more about. I grew up where my dad treated me like ****, so I wanted to be the best father I could. Don't get me wrong here, my daughter can destroy with the best of them. You're an adult. Does he still love me? *I also grew up in a home where my parents were unhappy. My eldest is 3 then one nearly 2 and one due any time, we dont fight too much but dont love each other, dont even like each other, I just dont want the kids not to have family days and stuff? Grown apart and have no interest in each others lives! Aside from personal decision to have an unwanted relationship and questioning such question of having a baby with someone you don't want to be with, how to deal with it, we will need to be responsible.
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